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[cactusy]

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[cactusy]

i don't not care about him. i like him fine. But Lark's a part of your wolf pack thing, and that's pretty much the opposite of uninvolved and unbiased. he's also one of those smooth and slick types who's always working an angle, right?

Eiffel also offered, and i told him no way, too. just so you don't think i'm cool with my close friends but not yours.

[abrightboy]

Lark’s not my close friend. He’s more like my boss, like Kiryu was. He’s the closest thing to Kiryu that’s left. Do you just not want to do it anymore?

[cactusy]

no, i don't want that. but if we do it with the wrong person it's going to cause an even bigger mess.

[abrightboy]

We can try it with Lark.

[cactusy]

remember that thing i said about how my wants matter too

[abrightboy]

Yes, but based on Actual Results? Your wants matter only. Whatever. If some unicorn of a person happens to come aboard that you’re fine with just call me.

[cactusy]

in the hierarchy of wants, in an interpersonal situation, forcing someone not to do something they want to do comes before forcing someone to do something they don't want to do. that's a concrete guideline.

[abrightboy]

One that works in your favour like all of them do because you say no to everything.

[cactusy]

you know what

maybe you're right and i don't want to do this

not until you internalize the idea of other people being people just as much as you are

[abrightboy]

How does saying the fact that you shoot down every option without offering any mean you’re not a person? You’re a person who won’t accept any single mediator. What’s dehumanizing about saying that true fact?

[cactusy]

[No response comes.]

[abrightboy]

I don’t understand this. I didn’t say anything bad to you. I’ll take anyone at this point. Just pick somebody.

[cactusy]

[There's a pause of about half an hour, and then:]

jedao. he's empathetic, emotionally intelligent, eloquent, and thoughtful. he's been clear with me about problems with my approach and communciation style before, and i think he'd see the problems with yours, too. i like him, but we aren't close.

[abrightboy]

Done. Book it.

[cactusy]

ok

[abrightboy]

Let me know when.

[ukan]

Hey, Malcolm mentioned he offered me as an option for mediator and you turned him down. Can I ask why?

[cactusy]

because you're a part of his wolf pack and i think we need someone uninvolved with either of us. and because you're a slick talker and i think we need someone straight forward.

i wasn't lying to him or leaving anything out when i told him that. those are my real reasons.

[ukan]

Fair enough.

Were things going well with Kiryu?

[cactusy]

i think so. slowly, but yeah.

[ukan]

I'm sorry he had to go. But if I can help, I want to help.

[cactusy]

what happened to "fair enough"?

[ukan]

"Fair enough" meaning I can understand your reasons, but Kiryu is gone and you may need a new approach to this problem if he can't be replaced.

[cactusy]

we're going to try Jedao. but if he doesn't work out, i'm still vetoing you.

[ukan]

Consider advocates instead of a single mediator, since it's unlikely you two will ever find someone who 'gets' both of you.