the big problem is that he worries things with me are going to turn out like things like him I think. whenever we hit a milestone he hit with Bucky we deal with some worry on his part that it's going to happen with me

right after they got married is when that guy disappeared and I showed up like a couple months later. so I expect when I bring up marriage he's going to have a similar kind of weird worry going on

I won't say no to you having a chat with him once we get the handfasting done with, though. it might help just to have someone who ain't me talk with him